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All the time I was growing up in the Church, I received a lot of advice and counsel about relationships with women. I was warned about the dangers of promiscuity, and learned that “worldly” dating was the cause of much harm. I was told to save myself for marriage and to “guard my heart”.

I was also left completely unprepared to start and have a healthy relationship.

So much time was spent on the dangers of dating, that precious little seemed left to instruct me in how to be a man, how to relate to the opposite sex, and how to actually pursue a woman. I never learned how to talk to women, but what I did learn was a host of attitudes that crippled my ability to interact with the opposite sex. I ”learned” that Courtship is the only acceptable way to pursue a girl. I “learned” that you should be “friends first”. I ”learned” that considering physical attraction  was “worldly”, as if beauty itself was “worldly”.  I “learned” that men were beasts, and women were angels, as opposed to both of us being human. I also learned that chastity was easy if you never had a girlfriend. And, if masculinity ever did show up, it was of the chest beating variety without much substance.

After enough pain and enough searching, I’ve learned things that I believe can help you, because they certainly helped me. From Aquinas to Chesterton to Eldredge, I read Christian authors who have a far saner view of how a man acts and relates to women. More than sane, a far deeper view, that goes deep into understanding God and His design.

On this blog, among other things, you will learn how to attract women, how to choose the right kind of woman, how to be more of the man you were designed to be, and the real meaning and purposes of human sexuality. Above all, though, I hope you learn something that can bring you closer to God.

Michael D.